Long Distance Relationships And Sex

People always tell me when I say I have a girlfriend and she lives in Mexico, "Oh my I don't know how you do it? It must be so hard being apart and not getting that physical interaction!" The thing most people forget is that yes it's true many long distance relationships fail, (maybe 90%) but 90% of relationships in general fail, that's why the only ones that last usually end in marriage. My theory is that most people date because they think they should and they need an outlet for all those physical hormones.

To quote Irvine Welsh about relationships:
'The thing is thit thir's guan oot n gaun oot. Sometimes whin ye say yir 'gaun oot' wi somebody it jist means thit yir ridin thum. Other times it's a bit like 'gaun steady'. That's fuckin daft, like ye wire gaun crooked before. Thir's birds ye go oot wi, n thir's ones ye jist ride'
Terry Lawson from the novel Glue

So why do people waste time in relationships they know won't last, I think it's all about the sex and a way to try and get some false sense of being wanted or loved. Or maybe they just need the feeling like a drug.

A quote from Chuck Palahniuk explains this theory:
'Sex addicts are really addicted to the endorphines, not the sex. Sex addicts have lower natural levels of monoamine oxidase. Sex addicts really crave the peptide phenylethylamine that might by triggered by danger, by infatuation, by risk or fear.
For a sex addict, your tits, your dick, your clit or tongue or asshole is like a shot of heroin, always there, always ready to use. Nico and I love each other as much as any junkie loves his fix.'
Victor Mancini from the novel Choke

So why do people always suffer from the "one who got away" I think it's because at the time they were too young and dumb to realize they let their chemical urges distract them from what's really important about relationships.

Of course this is too hard to explain to a person who asks me that question so I usually just reply "I dunno it's not as bad as you would think."

So in general the point is that most long distance relationships fail because the people in them realize they were only together for sexual desires, the reason I stay in mine is because I know that you can fuck anybody with a vagina, but you can only truly connect with one person. In fact I have it easy I get to live my own life and have all the deep conversations I want thanks to technology and those few times we can be together until we can be together forever everytime is like living it all for the first time.